Can a Psychic Medium Help You With Grief?
Spiritual mediums help bridge the gap between the living and those who have passed.
There is no emotion as intense and painful as grief. When you lose someone close, feelings of loss, loneliness and despair are beyond anything you have felt before. Grief is primal, raw, rasping and engulfing. Emotions wash over you uncontrollably. One minute you are empty and dead inside. The next you are full of hatred for the illness, accident, perpetrator or old age that took your loved one from you. The intensity takes your breath away. Many people find comfort in the presence and services of a psychic medium; a psychic reading can help you grieve, and how it can offer you hope… and the strength to keep going.
When we lose a loved one, our lives change. But it doesn’t have to be a long, never ending dark tunnel. After the shock, confusion, surrealism and deep sadness start to lift as we go through the grief process, there can be rejuvenation–a new lease on life. But it’s important to accept that you’re in a new reality and there is a new relationship with your loved one and a new relationship with yourself.
Meeting or speaking to a psychic medium is one way of taking the first few steps toward acceptance. A good psychic or spiritual (the terms are interchangeable) medium helps you understand your loved one is always near. Even though you cannot feel their physical presence, they are with you. Learning you are wrapped in love is comforting beyond measure. Knowing that you will always be connected is so reassuring. Somehow, you receive the strength to carry on with your life and even begin to feel good about it.
When is the Right Time for a Psychic Reading?
It’s best to wait a little while before contacting a psychic reader. At the very beginning, you might feel you need to cling to some remnant or spirit of the one who has died. Yet, now, you may not be able to listen to the message. Give it some time – how long is dependent upon how you are feeling. Once you feel ready to make contact, you will know it.
If you can wait until the rawness and shock that comes from a death has settled a little then you and the spirit communicator will be able to build a much more stable bridge of love between the two worlds and the medium’s work will be much more accurate and evidential. Try to wait at least three months before setting out on your spiritual quest. And remember that sometimes it can take a long time to get the absolute proof you need that life continues after death but persevere as you will eventually get the comforting proof you need.
One thing you shouldn’t do is become addicted to psychic readings. Some people live their lives through readings and become completely immersed in the spirit world. They are wholly focused on their next ‘fix’. Unless you are a medium yourself, you should avoid this. You still have a life to live in this world.
In the same vein, you should also avoid hopping from one psychic to another. Each will have their own style and you could become confused and disillusioned. Create a good relationship with one, possibly two, but no more than that.
Frequency of Readings
If you are wanting to touch base with your loved one; making sure all is well with them, once or twice a year is fine. Of course, it depends on the individual. Some have written books and websites about their experiences with the psychic world, so are happy to have an ongoing dialogue. As long as it doesn’t become an addiction, as described above, there’s no problem in keeping in touch as necessary.
Anniversaries, Christmas, birthdays and Valentines are good occasions to have a psychic reading. But don’t book a reading for someone else because you think it will make a great surprise gift for them. It may well be exactly what they want, but do ask them first.
Steps to Ease Your Spirit As You Grieve
We can’t control the fact that we’ve lost someone we love. And we can’t bring them back. But we can move forward into a more peaceful state of being. Surrendering is letting go of the pain (even for a moment) so you can live in the present. It knows that something bigger than ourselves is protecting us.
Whenever you feel that wave of grief, surrender to it. When you’re overwhelmed, see the word “surrender” in your mind’s eye. Say, “I surrender” to yourself. This will act as a reminder to let go for a moment.
You may have guilt around your loved one’s death. You may feel responsible, blaming yourself for not doing enough. We must remember that this was their life’s path. To move through the grief it is important to forgive yourself so you can free yourself to heal.
Connect With Your Loved Ones
If you are open to the idea that their spirit is alive, there are many ways to connect with your loved one. Going to a Spiritual Medium is a great way to do that. Many have found solace in the messages they receive from their loved one on the “other side.”
You can also connect with them on your own, in your daily life. The key is to send them love and light energy. As you heal yourself through the grieving process you may find a deeper connection to your loved one. There may be signs and messages that occur. Stay open and aware. Talk to your loved one. They want to connect with you if your heart is open.
It is so important to take care of yourself. Take time to take care of YOU. Remember you are still here and there is life ahead of you. There is joy to be experienced. Do the things that make you the happiest right now. Even if it’s something small like going for a walk, watching a favorite movie over and over, or making your favorite dish and eating it with a loved one.
There is nothing more powerful we can do than meditation. It quiets the mind, energizes the soul and creates a more peaceful state of being. It can be the anchor that gets you through your day. Find a meditation that works for you. From Passage Meditation to Transcendental Meditation. Try and practice it every day even if it’s for a few minutes. Start with 5 or 10 minutes. And work up to longer sessions or more frequent sessions.
Dream of Them
When you go to sleep ask your loved one to visit you in your dreams. Think about them. Send them love. It is thought that when we dream of our loved ones who have passed on, it is their way of communicating with us.
Keep a journal, write and recite poetry, paint a picture, take a photograph, make jewelry, sculpt, sing, act, even create a memory book of your loved one. Whatever your creative passion or interest is, tap into it. Even if it’s a very small creative project. Creating connects us to our deeper selves. That’s where the healing is.
Gardening is giving life. The process of watering and nurturing is healing. Watching a plant or a garden grow will create a peaceful state of mind. You can even grow your loved one’s favorite plant of flower. Talk to your loved one while you are gardening. Feel their presence.
When we exercise, it releases endorphins, which expedites feelings of happiness. Find an exercise you love to do. The deep breathing associated with exercise can also release pent up sadness and trigger tears that need to come out. It’s a healthy sign to emote and can help get you through the grieving process.
Creating ritual around the memory of a loved one is a powerful way to keep them with us. After all, that’s what most of us want. We miss them. We want to feel their presence. The ritual can be whatever you want it to be. It can be an altar-like corner in your home. Or you can create an “active altar” by doing an activity as you remember them. Perhaps something they loved to do. Or you both loved to do together.
Asking for guidance and support is important now. Prayer is a powerful way to attain that. Remember when you pray, don’t just say words in a rote fashion, feel your feelings. That is where the power is. Just the practice of saying a prayer can help navigate your grieving because it is an action step and a tool toward healing.
Getting outside help from bereavement groups and therapists is important and can help you deal with the stages of grief. It’s especially important if you find yourself in an ongoing depression. This is a fragile time and it’s essential that you seek the help you need.
You will never “get over” the loss (don’t let anyone tell you that you will). This is an experience that will live with you for the rest of your life. But you can take this difficult time and create a positive outcome. You can find a way to put your loss and the memory of your loved in a special place in your heart that you carry with you from this moment on.
To move beyond your grief can be a journey of self-discovery– to see yourself and your life in a new way. But, the way to move through and beyond the grief process requires that you are open and that you take action.
Remember. This is YOUR journey. This is a time to explore who YOU are. The grief you are experiencing does ease with time. And take all the time you need to get through this life challenge. Be gentle with yourself. Surround yourself with positive, loving people and great experiences. And you may find that your heart has opened to a wonderful new life as you carry the memory of your loved one forever.
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I hope you found this article comforting and helpful.
When you are ready to try speaking with a psychic medium to help you find peace with your loss, try a free reading at Psychic Access; I prefer Psychic Access because their psychics are tested and verified, and because you can start with a totally free reading to see if it feels right for you.
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